Comparing Gifts - Part 1

"Now, to each one is given a manifestation of the Spirit for the common good…”
 
We’ve heard of the bells that ring on Christmas day, but have you heard the wails, the moans, the groans that come from our children when they open a shiny package, only to discover clothes? Or that moment when the gift, by itself, is acceptable, but when placed side by side with what HE got, or what SHE got, the world becomes quickly, “Unfair!” 
 
Scripture speaks clearly about the “Giver of every good and perfect gift.” Paul indicates that God’s gifts include ways that Christ is revealed through our lives. These “spiritual gifts” mark distinct ways that each believer glorifies God and builds up others. We know certain gifts: Leadership, teaching, shepherding, evangelism, and wisdom. These gifts carry weighty respect and admiration. We elevate the impact these gifts have in the world, and, by implication, downplay other spiritual gifts: Mercy, helps, and hospitality, to name a few. 
 
I wonder how God interprets our behavior. Does He watch with curiosity, frustration, or dismay when He sees us comparing spiritual gifts? I think He longs for us to see the bigger picture, namely, that all of His gifts are given for the common good. Administration becomes as vital as evangelism when it comes to organizing discipleship classes. The gift of giving is just as crucial as the divine capacity to start new ministries. 
 
As our children grow in faith, we begin to see the emerging spiritual gifts that God gives to them. The door opens for us to celebrate and affirm the various ways that God “shows up” in their lives. A few simple examples may help.

• A child with a tender heart for the wounded may be showing early signs of the gift of mercy. Express joy over her ability to cry with those who cry. You may be raising another Mother Theresa. 
• A son who isn’t afraid to stand against the pressure of his peers in order to do what is right may foreshadow a gift of prophecy.
• A daughter who steps into the pool of indecision, and helps the group decide what movie to see might be endowed with a leadership gift. 

Watch for these early indicators of divine gifting, and celebrate your observations. Help your son and daughter embrace their spiritual gifts. Resist the temptation to push them into a particular area of gifting. Rather, affirm the evidence of God’s creative presence in each child. This will go far toward ensuring that they express gratitude, and not grumbling, for all of God’s wonderful gifts.