Today's devotional comes directly from my heart as a Camp Director, husband, father and friend. Imagine me as the trail guide while I try to direct our hearts through a few thoughts on this tricky subject (feels like approaching the Grand Canyon with too much to cover and too little time).
The Bible is our map and compass for life. Though dating isn't addressed directly in the scriptures there are many passages to direct us in honoring one another, loving God and others correctly and how to be a godly man (MAC)/ woman (WOG) in important relationships. Moms and dads will remember the old TV show the "Dating Game" where participants were asked personal questions, gave smooth answers and then were chosen or eliminated without even seeing the contestant. A dangerous situation and certainly not a position we want our kids to be in. Therefore we'll finish up this devotional with some questions to prepare your kids for their 'dating journey 'instead of doing the 'dating game'.
Know your trails, never go alone-- it can lead you into compromising situations and a pack full of regrets. Take the pressure off the "couple's thing" and choose the "group thing" which allows more creativity, awareness, safety and greater adventures. Hike your trail slow and easy, taking your time and celebrate the discoveries of God's creation such as sense of humor, common interests, shared values, serving and conquering the boring and mundane.
Parents: too often we pressure or overly encourage dating instead of enjoying your child where they're at. Help them by discussing and setting healthy boundaries. Be involved without smothering and be aware of today's pressures and terminology such as "hooking up" or "sexting". Talk, listen, support--be there.
Young men (MAC's) you've got huge responsibilities in setting and protecting standards. Know that getting into "one to one" seemingly innocent Bible studies, lengthy prayer times and sharing deep feelings can damage a lady's heart. Know there are different levels of intimacy that bring higher stakes.
Young ladies (WOG's) you're the prize of a guy's eyes and heart…first, your own father's (even if he doesn't say so). Know that a guy will treat you as good or bad as you allow. Be kind yet aware of the messages you're sending verbally, nonverbally and yes in your appearance.
Lasting relationships are three way: God - guy - gal. They take time and commitment to honor God and others above personal pleasure. Hang in there…Do it right --it's worth it!
Think through these questions for your dating standard:
Finally, teenager, it's better to be sitting at home with your family or hanging out with true friends than to throw away your dignity, integrity and character. Scriptures that will guide you through the dating trails include Romans 12:9-21, Ephesians 4:1-3, Philippians 2:1-4, Philippians 4:4-8 and Colossians 3:12-17. Rely on your compass, without it dating can be a slippery slope.
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really well written- it's nice to have someone other than parent discussing this tricky and difficult subject. Been blessed by this. thank you!
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